Do you ever worry about what people are thinking or saying about you? Oh I do all the time!! I’ve let it get way out of control here recently. In the past, I’ve actually made decisions based on the thoughts and ideas of others instead of doing what I know is best for me and mine.
I hate confrontation.
But even more than that, I’d hate to think that someone disapproved of something that I do or say. I’d hate to think I’ve disappointed someone or that they don’t think highly of me. I am a huge people pleaser. As I said, I can let this fear of disapproval get way out of control and let it begin to rule my life. There are REALLY so many opinions out there on every subject known to man. Trying to keep everybody happy with me is impossible. But nonetheless, there are days that I do make futile attempts.
One morning a week or so ago, I was stressing over some simple decisions while I was getting ready to go out. My morning “get ready routine” is one of the only times that my mind is idle. My hands and arms seem to just go on auto pilot while I’m doing my make-up and hair. And it’s often in those moments where it’s just me and the mirror that I sense God speaking to me. On this particular morning, He brought to my mind a passage of His word that I had read recently,
2 Samuel 24.
David had just sinned against God, and he knew it. For his punishment, God gave him 3 choices: 3 years of being on the run from his enemies, 7 years of famine, or 3 days of a plague on the people sent by the LORD. His answer surprised me. David says, ” I prefer that we be attacked by the Lord, for His mercy is great; I do not want to be attacked by men!”
David knew and understood that God, His maker and Heavenly Father, is more merciful than men. How ironic right? You’d think that since we are ALL human we would have more compassion, understanding and tenderness toward each other. Verse 16 of that chapter says, “When the angel extended his hand to destroy Jerusalem, the Lord relented from his judgment.He told the angel who was killing the people, “That’s enough! Stop now!”
God is merciful.
It really is a shame that we spend so much of our time and energy on picking apart the deeds, clothes, motives, etc. of our fellow man ,or woman. In Ephesians 4:1-2, the apostle Paul says, “I, therefore, the prisoner for the Lord, urge you to live worthily of the calling with which you have been called,with all humility and gentleness,with patience, acceptingone another in love…”
So when God brought this story of David to my mind that morning, He was reminding me who I am to live for. Proverbs 29:25 says that “The fear of man is a dangerous trap, but the one who trusts in the LORD is kept safe.”
Unfortunately, people are going to talk about me. Jesus says in John 15:18, “If the world hates you, know that it has hated me before it hated you.”
The good news of Jesus is that He came so that we may have life and live it to the fullest (John 10:10). Life free from chains of fear and dread of what others are thinking and saying and a life full of peace and victory.
So my desire is to go forth walking in this new found freedom. The freedom of knowing that my Creator approves of me because when He sees me, He sees the righteousness of His son Jesus. I pray you will walk in this freedom too.
And we all could use a little push in the direction towards loving and serving our fellow woman rather than analyzing her heart or her shirt.